The Held Law Firm Approach to Divorce.

No one who gets married plans on getting divorced. Most of our clients feel tremendous disappointment, betrayal, and just down-right grief. Most lawyers hate doing divorces, and those lawyers seem to do a bad job. The lawyers we know that complain about divorce work tend to have bad relationships with their clients, who resent them, the process, and the money they are spending almost as much as they resent their X.

As strange as it might seem, I love helping people get their divorce. Don’t get me wrong - it is heart-rending to listen to my divorce clients during that initial consultation. I always feel the urge to bring you a cup of hot tea to accompany that wad of tissues I keep beside your chair. But as sad as I am for you, I know that when I get done with the case, my clients go from being the picture of misery to being so light on their feet, almost gleeful. I love helping bring about that transformation.

The difference, I think, is that at this Firm, we view our divorcing clients as people who are ready to take charge of their lives, to end what is making them so miserable, and to find a new way to love their lives and their families. We don’t view our role as the undertaker to the death of a family; we view our role as the planner and architect of a new kind of family - one that has some sadness in its history, but whose family doesn’t? We don’t end families. We design new ones.

The family we help our clients design through their divorce is one that functions better than ever before - that frees the parties from the old ruts that kept them miserable and enables them to find a more fulfilling life for themselves, and also gives their kids happier, more functional, more focused, committed and involved parents.

All change is hard. And if you are changing the nature of your family, expect it to be very hard and very, very scary. But I want all of my clients to have faith - a faith that I have, which has been borne out by experience time and time again. You will not only get through this, but within a year, you will be happier than you ever were while married.

You are not losing your family. This divorce is simply your chance to become a better one.

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